“for someone who advises people to have plenty of sex and plenty of wild sex, i’ve had little of late. I’m like a reverse-christian. they tell people not to have sex, but have it. i tell people to have sex, but don’t.”—
Let’s face it, deep throating is an acquired skill and taste. It’s not the easiest thing to do and it demands commitment and dedication to get past the learning curve into the free-fall, bliss zone–even for you, the deep throater.
Yes. Deep throating can bring you bliss.
It can also make you a better person. There are characteristics developed in the honing of the deep throat craft that are transferable life skills. Such as:
1) You Have to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone.
Having a large cock pumping back and forth inside your throat does not seem like a natural act, I agree. You have to be willing to let go of preconceived notions and jump into unknown territory.
At first, especially with a well-endowed lover, deep-throating can be uncomfortable. The trick is to slowly, incrementally open your throat and get used to your lover’s cock residing there.
Like being in a new job, or a new mom, or any situation that is new and unfamiliar, you take one step at a time. You attend to the obstacles right in front of your path and one-by-one, you gain proficiency and eventually, mastery.
2) You Have to Focus to Be Successful.
With a hard, foreign object lodged in your esophagus, I guarantee that you will not be daydreaming about your grocery list, what to wear on Saturday night and whether Serena will choose Nate or Dan. (I think Dan. They’ve always been strong). All of your attention will be in your throat, on your lover’s cock, his hips and nothing but that very millisecond in time. Nothing else matters except how you will take your next breath.
This is good. This is the kind of focus that blocks out everything extraneous and zeroes in on what matters now. Again, an excellent life skill.
3) You Have to Surrender and Let Go.
So far all of this sounds like a lot of work and discomfort, doesn’t it? And for what? Your lover may love being deep-throated, but will you love doing it?
Here’s what to love about it. All of the things I mentioned are preparation for this next step, which is the reward. Once you’ve put in the work and gotten to a certain level of proficiency, you let go. Fully open yourself, open your throat, open your legs and allow whatever happens to happen. Your lover will find his own rhythm in your throat and you will receive him. Inch by inch you will surrender and allow him into you. The art of surrender is one of the most important tools you will ever, ever learn, especially as a woman.
A man’s strength and expression in the world is his masculine energy. He is direct, forceful, assertive and makes things happen. These are qualities of the masculine archetype. I believe that feminine energy is less successful by following the same trajectory–by imitating men. We get things done by opening, receiving, surrendering and fully inhabiting our femaleness, the archetype of our femininity. We ATTRACT. By embodying our beauty, our radiance and our softness, we achieve and bring things into our lives not so much by conquering, but by allowing.
By allowing his cock deeply into your throat, you’ll tap into the gift of letting go. You’ll learn how to receive good things into your life.
Who knew all the life lessons that could be learned through deep throating? Sex is a highly under-looked microcosm for life. You can learn a lot about how to live by how you fuck.
“Loneliness does not come from having no people around one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”—Carl Jung (via hauswittgenstein)